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Tak terasa sudah lama tidak menuli disini. Bulan Juni 2010 ini, tepatnya tanggal 15 Juni 2010 Jam 8pagi di Rumah Sakit Bersalin Adi Guna Surabaya, istriku melahirkan anak ke 3 bagi kami dengan berat 4.1 Kg. Anak kami ini putra, kami beri nama Joseph Ronggur Aaron Silitonga. 

Jadi lengkap sudah rasa bahagia kami, dengan anaknya anak ke 3 ini. Semoga mereka menjadi anak yang luarbiasa dihadapan Tuhan dan melayani Tuhan dengan sungguh nantinya. 

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.


2. Forgive And Forget

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive and forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill your life in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.


4. Do Not Be Jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile . Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

10 Principles for Peace of Mind

1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked

Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.


2. Forgive And Forget

This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive and forget, and march on. Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition

This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill your life in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.


4. Do Not Be Jealous

We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny, which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment

If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured

This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew

This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind.

8. Meditate Regularly

Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant

An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile . Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name.

10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret

Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. Why cry over spilt milk?

Kepribadian Manusia dari Status Facebook

Kepribadian Manusia dari Status Facebook

1. Manusia Super Update
Kapanpun dan di manapun selalu update status. Statusnya tidak terlalu panjang tapi terlihat bikin risih, karena hal-hal yang tidak terlalu penting juga dipublikasikan.
Contoh : "Lagi makan di restoran A..", "Dalam perjalanan menujuneraka. .", "Saatnya baca koran..", dan sebagainya.

2. Manusia Melankolis
Biasanya selalu curhat di status. Entah karena ingin banyak diberi komentar dari teman-temannya atau hanya sekedar menuangkan unek-uneknya ke facebook. Biasanya orang tipe ini menceritakan kisahnya dan terkadang menanyakan solusi yang terbaik kepada yang lain.
Contoh : "Kamu sakitin aku..lebih baik aku cari yang lain..", "Cuma kamu yang terbaik buat aku..terima kasih kamu sudah sayang ama aku selama ini..".

3. Manusia Tukang Ngeluh
Pagi, siang, malem, semuanya selalu ada aja yang dikeluhkan.
Contoh : " Jakarta maceeet..!! Panas pula..", "Aaaargh ujan, padahal baru nyuci mobil..sialan. .!!", "Males ngapa2in.. cape hati gara2 si do' i..", dsb.

4. Manusia Sombong
Mungkin beberapa dari mereka ga berniat menyombongkan diri, tapi terkadang orang yang melihatnya, yang notabene tidak bisa seberuntung dia, merasa kalo statusnya itu kelewat sombong, dan malah bikin sebel.
Contoh : "Otw ke Paris ..!!", "BMW ku sayang, saatnya kamu mandi..aku mandiin ya sayang..", "Duh, murah-murah banget belanja di Singapur, bow,"

5. Manusia Puitis
Dari judulnya udah jelas. Status nya selalu diisi dengan kata-kata mutiara, tapi ga jelas apa maksudnya. Bikin kita terharu? Bikin kita sadar atas pesan tersembunyinya? atau cuma sekedar memancing komentar? Sampai saat ini, tipe orang seperti ini masih dipertanyakan.
Contoh : "Kita masing-masing adalah malaikat bersayap satu. Dan hanya bisa terbang bila saling berpelukan", "Mencintai dan dicintai adalah seperti merasakan sinar matahari dari kedua sisi", "Jika kau hidup sampai seratus tahun, aku ingin hidup seratus tahun kurang sehari, agar aku tidak pernah hidup tanpamu".

6. Manusia in English
Tipe manusianya bisa seperti apa saja, apakah melankolis, puitis, sombong dan sebagainya. Tapi dia berusaha lebih keren dengan mengatakannya dalam bahasa Inggwis gicyu Low..
Contoh : "Tie and Chair..", "I can tooth, you Pink sun.." dsb..

7. Manusia Lebay
Updatenya selalu bertema 'gaul' dengan menggunakan bahasa dewa.. ejaan yang dilebaykan..
Contoh.." met moulnin all.. pagiiieh yg cewrah... xixiixi" << lol~

8. Manusia Terobsesi
Mengharap tapi ga kesampaian.. pengen jd artis ga dapat-dapat.
Contoh : "duwh... sesi pemotretan lagi! cape..."

9. Manusia Sok Tau
Sotoy tenarnya. Padahal dia sendiri tidak tahu apa yang ditulisnya.
Contoh : "Pemerintah selalu memanjakan rakyatnya.. bla..bla...bla, "

10. Bioskop Mania
Update film yang abis ditonton dan kasih comment..
Contoh : "ICE AGE 3..Recomended! !", "Transformers 2 mantab euy.."

11. Manusia pedagang
Contoh: "jual sepatu bla bla bla"

12. Manusia penyuluh masyarakat
Contoh: "jangan lupa dateng ke TPS, 5 menit utk 5 tahun bla..bla"

13. Manusia Alay
Ada berbagai macam versi, dari tulisannya yang aneh, atau tulisannya biasa aja, hanya saja kosakata nya ga lazim seperti bahasa alien.
Contoh:Alay 1 : "DucH Gw4 5aYan9 b6t s4ma Lo..7aNgaN tin69aL!n akYu ya B3!bh..!!"
Alay 2 : "km mugh kog gag pernach ngabwarin aq lagee seech? kmuw maseeh saiangs sama aq gag seech sebenernywa? "
Alay 3 : "Ouh mY 9oD..!! kYknY4w c gW k3ReNz 48ee5h d3ch..!!"(Khusus buat tipe ini, ga usah di baca juga gpp..saya pribadi juga mikirdulu buat nulis ini, walaupun jadinya kurang mirip sama yg aslinya..)

14. Tipe Hidden Message
Tipe ini biasanya tidak to the point, tapi tentunya punya niat biar orang yg dituju membaca nya. (bagus kalo baca..kalo ngga? kelamaan nunggu) padahal kan bisa langsung aja sms ya..
Contoh : "For you my M***, I can' t live without you..you are my bla bla bla..","Heh, cewe bajingan..ngapain lo deket2in co gw?! kyk ga laku aja lo.." (padahal ce tersebut tidak ada dalam jaringannya. . mana bisa baca...)

15. Tipe Misterius
Tipe yang biasanya bikin banyak orang bertanya tanya atas apa maksud dari status orang tersebut..Biasanya dalam suatu kalimat membutuhkan Subjek + Predikat + Objek + Keterangan. Tapi orang tipe ini mungkin hanya mengambil beberapa atau malah hanya 1 saja..Dan pastinya mengundang kontroversi.
Contoh : "Sudahlah.." , "Telah berakhir.." (apanya??)," Termenung. . ." (so what gitu, loh)

16. Tipe Gaptek (perlu beli buku panduan fb)
Tipe ini biasanya paling bikin orang risih. Mungkin maksudnya nulis wall buat temen tp ini malah ditulis di kolom status
Contoh : hai apa kabar?, kamu lagi sama siapa?, aku kuliah jurusan akuntansi, kamu kuliah dmn?
(ini nyata lho. gw bener2 punya temen kyk gini. Ditulisnya huruf naik turun pula)

17. Tipe motivator
Tipe seperti ini biasanya statusnya bisa menjadi pemotivasi user fb yg lain
Contoh: Hnya 0rg mLas sJa yg slLu mNgaLami k'gagLan dlm hdupx.krna bgi org yg g!at,sUatu k'gagLan adLah sbuah kberhasLan yg trtUnda.
(ini gw copas dari status friends gw. cantik padahal. tapi nulisnya begini jadi gmn gitu )

18. Tipe music holic
Orang seperti ini biasanya adalah orang yang menuangkan perasaannya ke dalam musik
Contoh: Syukuri apa yang ada, hidup adalah anugerah. Tetap jalani hidup ini, melakukan yg terbaik----D' massiv: jgn menyerah
(lagu yg 1 ini sempet booming bgt d'friends gw)

19. Tipe jorok
Hmm orang kayak gini gw paling gak suka. Jadi bikin bener2 ilfeel
Contoh: abis berak...
(bayangin gan. abis berak aja langsung di publikasiin. penting bgt gak sih?)

20. Tipe religius
Nah tipe kayak gini nih paling jarang (menurut pengamatan gw). Kecuali kalo lg ada momen2 seperti ujian akhir, ujian masuk PTN, atau sebelum pengumuman kelulusan
Contoh: Ya Allah tolong mudahkan hamba & teman2 hamba mengerjakan soal2 ujian yg akan kami hadapi besok (pas ada ujian). Ya Allah luluskan kami 1 angkatan siswa siswa SMAN ** (sebelum pengumuman kelulusan)

21. Tipe pasrah
Orang tipe seperti ini biasanya kalo lagi kena musibah.
Contoh: aduh ketauan nyontek. Udah ah liat nanti aja

22. Tipe gila bola
Tipe yang 1 ini biasanya selalu memposting status sesuai berita bola yang lg hangat / sekedar memberi dukungan kpd tim kesayangannya. Status seperti ini biasanya sering mendapat like (gw menyebutnya ijo2 ala fb) dari user lain yg juga penggila bola.
Contoh: Xabi Alonso telah resmi dijual ke real madrid (berita). Hala Madrid (kasih dukungan)

23. Tipe Gak Jelas (masukan dari bro iggervanz)
selalu nulis status yang gak jelas
Contoh: Eng..ing..eng. .., Treng.. teng..teng.. teng..., Bla..Bla..Bla DLL

24. Tipe meratapi nasib
kalo tipe ini bawaannya sedih mulu
Contoh: katanya sayang? kok malah gini? heeem

25. Tipe penyakitan
nah tipe yg ini bisa dibilang tipe musiman. Apa lagi kalo musim sakit. Wah pasti langsung banyak yg update status ttg penyakitnya.
Contoh: Aduh pilek nih, ingus meler terus lg. Aduh migran gw kambuh. Yaaa gara2 demam berdarah gw harus di opname deh

26. Tipe kedaerahan
Orang-orang tipe ini biasanya orang yg masih berpegang teguh pada bahasa daerahnya
Orang seperti ini biasanya memposting status dengan bahasa daerahnya yg orang lain blm tentu tau.
Contoh: Tmend esdhe.ko brubbah kbeh . . .tmbh aneh . . . .gosibp ezd lauazt sek usum ae ! ! Hehehehe (orang jawa)

Anda termasuk yang mana ???

Apa Yang Kita Sombongkan...?

Apa Yang Kita Sombongkan...?

Seorang pria yang bertamu ke rumah Sang Guru tertegun keheranan. Dia melihat 
Sang Guru sedang sibuk bekerja; ia mengangkuti air dengan ember dan menyikat 
lantai rumahnya keras-keras. Keringatnya bercucuran deras. Menyaksikan
keganjilan ini orang itu bertanya, “Apa yang sedang Anda lakukan?”

Sang Guru menjawab, “Tadi saya kedatangan serombongan tamu yang meminta 
nasihat. Saya memberikan banyak nasihat yang bermanfaat bagi mereka.

Mereka pun tampak puas sekali. Namun, setelah mereka pulang tiba-tiba saya 
merasa menjadi orang yang hebat. Kesombongan saya mulai bermunculan. Karena 
itu, saya melakukan ini untuk membunuh perasaan sombong saya.”

Sombong adalah penyakit yang sering menghinggapi kita semua, yang 
benih-benihnya terlalu kerap muncul tanpa kita sadari.

Di tingkat terbawah, sombong disebabkan oleh faktor materi. Kita merasa
lebih kaya, lebih rupawan, dan lebih terhormat daripada orang lain.

Di tingkat kedua, sombong disebabkan oleh faktor kecerdasan. Kita merasa 
lebih pintar, lebih kompeten, dan lebih berwawasan dibandingkan orang lain.

Di tingkat ketiga, sombong disebabkan oleh faktor kebaikan. Kita sering 
menganggap diri kita lebih bermoral, lebih pemurah, dan lebih tulus 
dibandingkan dengan orang lain.

Yang menarik, semakin tinggi tingkat kesombongan, semakin sulit pula kita 
mendeteksinya. Sombong karena materi sangat mudah terlihat, namun sombong 
karena pengetahuan, apalagi sombong karena kebaikan, sulit terdeteksi karena 
seringkali hanya berbentuk benih-benih halus di dalam batin kita.

Akar dari kesombongan ini adalah ego yang berlebihan. Pada tataran yang 
lumrah, ego menampilkan dirinya dalam bentuk harga diri (self-esteem) dan 
kepercayaan diri (self-confidence) . Akan tetapi, begitu kedua hal ini 
berubah menjadi kebanggaan (pride), Anda sudah berada sangat dekat dengan 
kesombongan. Batas antara bangga dan sombong tidaklah terlalu jelas.

Kita sebenarnya terdiri dari dua kutub, yaitu ego di satu kutub dan 
kesadaran sejati di lain kutub. Pada saat terlahir ke dunia, kita dalam 
keadaan telanjang dan tak punya apa-apa. Akan tetapi, seiring dengan waktu, 
kita mulai memupuk berbagai keinginan, lebih dari sekadar yang kita butuhkan 
dalam hidup. Keenam indra kita selalu mengatakan bahwa kita memerlukan lebih 
banyak lagi.

Perjalanan hidup cenderung menggiring kita menuju kutub ego. Ilusi ego 
inilah yang memperkenalkan kita kepada dualisme ketamakan (ekstrem suka) dan 
kebencian (ekstrem tidak suka). Inilah akar dari segala permasalahan.

Perjuangan melawan kesombongan merupakan perjuangan menuju kesadaran sejati. 
Untuk bisa melawan kesombongan dengan segala bentuknya, ada duaperubahan 
paradigma yang perlu kita lakukan.

Pertama, kita perlu menyadari bahwa pada hakikatnya kita bukanlah makhluk 
fisik, tetapi makhluk spiritual. Kesejatian kita adalah spiritualitas, 
sementara tubuh fisik hanyalah sarana untuk hidup di dunia. Kita lahir 
dengan tangan kosong, dan (ingat!) kita pun akan mati dengan tangan kosong.

Pandangan seperti ini akan membuat kita melihat semua makhluk dalam 
kesetaraan universal. Kita tidak akan lagi terkelabui oleh penampilan, 
label, dan segala “tampak luar” lainnya. Yang kini kita lihat adalah “tampak 
dalam”. Pandangan seperti ini akan membantu menjauhkan kita dari berbagai 
kesombongan atau ilusi ego.

Kedua, kita perlu menyadari bahwa apa pun perbuatan baik yang kita lakukan, 
semuanya itu semata-mata adalah juga demi diri kita sendiri.

Kita memberikan sesuatu kepada orang lain adalah juga demi kita sendiri.

Dalam hidup ini berlaku hukum kekekalan energi. Energi yang kita berikan 
kepada dunia tak akan pernah musnah. Energi itu akan kembali kepada kita 
dalam bentuk yang lain. Kebaikan yang kita lakukan pasti akan kembali kepada 
kita dalam bentuk persahabatan, cinta kasih, makna hidup, maupun kepuasan 
batin yang mendalam. Jadi, setiap berbuat baik kepada pihak lain, kita 
sebenarnya sedang berbuat baik kepada diri kita sendiri.

Kalau begitu, apa yang kita sombongkan?

Gbu_All
Semangat...




..I can't lie,I can't say i can feel what you feel,
but i'll always be here just to share your pain..

I am a great Father

A great Father

I never thought that I will be a father right now. When I was in junior high school, I ever thought what will be happened if I were a father one day.

It happened now, I married, having children (not only one but two). I noticed every process and thanked God for this moment. When my lovely wife said that she was pregnant, I was so happy because honestly speaking, I was afraid that I would not have a children (just worried). I took care of her well, every time we go for check up, I will accompany her. We went to Siloam Graha Medika in Kebun Jeruk. It's really far away from our house. But, I like to do it. Every process was amazing. I saw how is the baby getting bigger and be perfect. The amazing time was getting close and I was so nervous for that day.

On March 21st 2005, early in them morning, my wife said " I think it is the time now...". I asked my mother to prepare all the things and we went to Siloam but the doctor said " just wait because the contraction is still slow..". I went to school and the next day, around 8pm, I saw my little "boy" coming up. I cried and thanked God for this baby. 

The second one is easier  and my wife did not have any problem for the second baby. I helped them to walk, even for Joshua, every morning I will hold his hand and help him to walk slowly. I am glad to see this moment.

Now, I did one great moment for their life. I sent them to the school. I still want to do something great for their life later on. I want to be a great father for them as I had a great father and also a great Father in heaven.

I love you all Joshua Ranap Andrew Silitonga and also Josephine Rouli Andrea Silitonga.

Pa Joshua and Josephine

6 ELEMENTS TO BE A GREAT LEADER

You are on your way to build a large organization? It is important to establish yourself as a leader. The thing is that most people never got trained to manage people. Leadership is not about knowing everything, it’s more about knowing how to distribute the energy of a group.

 As your team keeps growing and growing, you’ll notice that they have questions and rely on you 100%. YOU are the leader.. Are you?!?

Here are 6 words, 6 elements you need to master if you want to be recognized as a true leader.

 

1. Trust

As a Group Leader you’ve got to establish your confidence. Every member of your team must trust you. It is your responsibility to build that confidence towards you and towards every members of your team.

 

2.  Coherence

You’ve got to walk your talk. What you say is what you do. Coherence between your teaching and your own actions will have a significant effect on your team: it will have a direct influence upon the trust of your team member towards you. The less your team trust you, the less your message will be heard.

 

3.  Competence

No leader can survive incompetence. Knowing how to resource yourself and knowing how to surround yourself are two qualities that every leader possess. What the leader don’t know, he learns it or he makes someone who knows about it to execute the task.

 

4.  Collaboration

The more successful people there will be in your team, the more success YOU will have but…   BE CAREFUL… As your member gets bigger and bigger, make sure they treat their downline with respect. Always bring them to their best. Be sure you make that statement duplicatable otherwise your downline will stop growing at some point making you lose maybe thousands of dollars. Make sure the heavy-hitters of your team know about this.

 

5.  Competition

Drive your team towards excellence. Be sure your team understand the different levels in your company. Subject leader level, group leader level, director level, presidential level… whatever your company name it. You’ve got to drive the member of your team towards their next level. Let your team know the success of everyone. As soon as someone reach his own next level, announce it  to your team. This will favor the development of your group.

 

6. Contribution

This is the guard angel of the team spirit. If all member of your team contribute to bring the best out of themselves you will lead a gropu that has very good potential to hit hard.. as a team. Every member must contribute in some ways. If they don’t work their business, they will not make money and you won’t make money. Help them build their business.